We would love to see more comedians including baby-friendly performances in their fringe runs and tours

Opinion

By Carly Smallman

Babies don’t belong at comedy shows, which is why we set one up for new parents and their screaming kids

Bring Your Own Baby was set up so that comedy fans wouldn’t have to say goodbye to something they loved before children (Photo: Jennifer West)

Should you bring a screaming baby to a comedy show? This is a topic of hot debate right now, after comedian Matt Forde complained that a parent did not remove their crying infant from his Edinburgh Fringe performance.

Let’s face it. Babies cry. They’re cute, but they are loud. Even the most angelic little bubba can quicky derail almost any social situation because they haven’t yet mastered speech and need to get their point across somehow. No one begrudges the baby, and only a real a-hole begrudges the parents. However, the situation is slightly different when a parent brings a young baby into an adult environment that relies on timing, attention, and a relationship between the performer and their audience.

Although many comics make it look easy, to get on stage and relay a long-form story – or even just tell a couple of dick jokes – requires craft, practice and years of experience. You might think this means they should be able to deal with anything – and in many cases they can. However, a crying infant is a different kettle of fish to a drunk heckler, and we would know, because we run Bring Your Own Baby Comedy – lunchtime comedy clubs for parents where they can bring their babies, who are free to make as much noise as they want.

The idea was conceived over a glass of wine when fellow comedian Alyssa Kyria and I realised that, whilst there were plenty of things for young babies to do that are aimed at them, there really wasn’t much grown-up stuff going on for the parents to enjoy. Grown-up stuff, remember that? Even if you did fancy a night out at a comedy club, it would cost a fortune in childcare, take a spreadsheet to organise, and you might even have to leave before the headliner. Our shows are set up as a cross between a full-blown adult comedy night and a creche. Think prosecco and soft mats – with plenty of buggy parking, baby changing and helping hands to carry all the heavy accoutrements that come with being a new parent.

The acts themselves do not tone down their regular club sets for the parents to enjoy (sex and profanity is not off the table), but they understand when they are booked for the gig that it will entail being surrounded by adorable, yet sometimes distracting, babies. The acts and the audience all know what they’re getting, and our shows are loads of fun for everyone.

In the case of a fringe show, or a night at the Comedy Store however, the expectations from both parties are completely different. It would be highly unusual for a new-born or a toddler to find themselves in this situation (unless they’re particularly resourceful and end up in a kind of Baby’s Day Out scenario, where a neglectful Ted Danson loses sight of them, and they get a solo night out on the town). In the case of Forde, both he and the audience had prepared themselves for an evening of pithy political humour and, judging by his tweets, the baby wasn’t. More of a slapstick fan, maybe?

Being a new parent can feel incredibly isolating for many, with most of the things you enjoyed pre-baby being off-limits to your new addition to the family. Bring Your Own Baby was set up so that comedy fans wouldn’t have to say goodbye to something they loved B.C. (before childbirth). We would love to see more comedians including baby-friendly performances in their fringe runs and tours. But there are plenty of great acts who could really enrich the lives of new parents by adding an extra baby-friendly date so that people can bring their bubba, let them scream their head off, and enjoy a good laugh. Alyssa’s daughter was always “that baby” who cried like a banshee, so while we can understand this father’s desire to come out and enjoy some comedy, we also sympathise with Forde, who wasn’t expecting a tiny new fan in the crowd.

Ultimately, in the same way a joke can’t function without context, a live gig often lives and dies by the context it’s set in. At Bring Your Own Baby Comedy it would be strange not to have a screaming baby or two, and at an Edinburgh fringe show or a West End comedy night, the inverse is true. It is not a reflection of a comedian’s quality if they prefer not to have a baby in the room, but for those of us who love it, we can’t wait to see more parents at our shows.

Carly Smallman is a comedian who runs Bring Your Own Baby Comedy with Alyssa Kyria. For more details and to book tickets visit www.byobcomedy.com

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